We brought this bitch in we can take this bitch out.
I walk into my elevator. Male walks in apt complex. I think, oh oh just go up, but then I think, don’t be rude. I ask him if he is getting on. He says nothing. I push I button and hear him say, “yea yea yea hold it.” He gets on elevator, smells of alcohol. Our elevator is VERY small and slow without a camera. He stares at me. I look away. He says, “which floor do you live on?” I just stare at him, like no. Louder, “so you’re not going to tell me what floor you live on?” I say nothing, stare dead in his eyes, then look away. I think of the fact that I no longer have my small weapon on my keys. I think about the fact that saying nothing is better than making these large intoxicated dude angry in a small space. It feels like an eternity as he stares at me the whole ride. I believe he then says, “well it has to be 3 or 4” then the door opens and he stumbles off. Pondering all these lil experiences we have as women and how they impact our feelings of safety and make us question ourselves concerning hyper vigilance, manners, and safety. *sigh*
Pocket-sized Grounding Kit
What do I need?
- An index card-sized file folder
- Index cards
- rubber band
- red marker (optional)
Where do I start?
First, you want to decide what sections you want. Here are some ideas, though feel free to create your own.
- Grounding exercises
- Inspirational quotes
- Notes from friends, family or therapist (can be collected)
- Religious/Bible quotes or sayings
- Pictures that are meaningful
- Goals you want to accomplish
- Neutral comebacks (i.e. “Do you think so?” “How interesting.” “That’s nice.”)
- Emergency hotlines, friends or supports to call
Next, create some index cards for each category. The stone, rubber band and marker are in case you need them for grounding exercises. I have clients who keep the marker in the kit so that they can use it if they feel the urge to cut. The pen is so you can add things as you go.
Now you have kit, will travel!